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But well-intentioned people may be uncomfortable with intense emotions or believe that they are helping when they are actually invalidating. The truth is that validation is not self-acceptance, it is only an acknowledgement that an internal experience occurred.

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Judging: “You are so overreacting,” and “That is a ridiculous thought,” are examples of invalidation by judging.

Ridicule is a particularly damaging: “Here we go again, cry over nothing, let those big tears flow because the grass is growing.” Denying: “You are not angry, I know how you act when you’re angry,” and “You have eaten so much, I know you aren’t hungry,” invalidate the other person by saying they don’t feel what they are saying they feel.

You never think and always make everything harder.” Blaming is always invalidating.

(Blaming is different from taking responsibility.) Hoovering: Hoovering is when you attempt to vacuum up any feelings you are uncomfortable with or not give truthful answers because you don’t want to upset or to be vulnerable.

Maybe they agree that your point of view in an argument when in fact they do not think you are being reasonable.

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